Dating On The Farm…SUCKS

We know Cole ain’t here.
He’s back in bed somewhere probably.

And the stresses that come on the farm that make relationships hard—
just the lifestyle of farming.
There’s long hours and mostly headaches every single day.

Single moms are great.
A lot of—
I don’t wish—
What’s the saying?
Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

How does she deal with your space?

It is so damn difficult to find something derogatory or negative
that someone has said about Jesse on the internet.

It hurt me reading Reddit threads about you
because of how many I saw about me.

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Today I’m joined by my brother Jesse,
and we’re going to be talking about love on the farm—
how to make relationships work
in a stressful environment like farming and ranching.

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Saddle up.
Let’s get down and dirty with it.

It is early.
It is 7 o’clock in the morning.

Yeah, so we know Cole ain’t here.
Feels a lot earlier than that.
We know Cole ain’t here—
he’s back in bed somewhere probably.

But today we don’t need him for this podcast anyways.

This is a podcast that I think Jesse and I
are going to be the ones that can do
the bulk of the speaking on for two reasons.

Mine not being the best reason.

Jesse is a very good, experienced, successful dater
in the farming industry,
and that’s what we’re going to be talking about today.

We’re going to be talking about love on the farm
and stresses that come on the farm
that make relationships hard—
because it is damn hard on the farm.

Yeah.
It’s not easy.
It’s not easy.
It’s not easy.

I want to tell a little story
because I think this really encapsulates
how difficult it is in a small town
or in a farming industry to find love
and to make it work.

When I was in my early to mid-20s,
I was recently single
or I had been single for a little bit,
and I experimented with dating apps.

I was trying Tinder, Bumble, Hinge.

Preferences—
Hinge I think is higher quality.
Tinder is just more quantity.

Oh no, brother.

But anyways, you have this map
that you drop on all these dating apps,
and you expand the circle
of where you’re supposed to find your matches.

Well where we’re at in Gallatin, Missouri,
you can expand that circle on all these apps—
I think it’s 100 miles—
and even when I expanded that thing 100 miles,
it still did not reach any major city
or any big population.

So the pickings were few and far between.
It was rough.

So it was rough there for a bit.

I realized very quickly,
okay, it’s going to be a lot harder than I thought.

Because the thing about a small town
or any sort of farming industry
is all of the good ones—
both men and women—
get married literally within two years
of graduating high school.

And they’ve probably been dating
since like sixth grade.

Is it not sure?
That’s exactly how it works.

Like the good ones meet up in sixth grade,
then they get married right out of high school,
and they start their family immediately.

So then you have the leftovers—
like me—
where you’re still single,
still on Hinge.

No, I’m not on Hinge anymore.
Clear—sorry.
Don’t look me up.
If you see me on Hinge,
it’s a fake account.

So you’re left with this very small number of people
that all come with major red flags,
hence why they are single
in the farming or small-town industry.

And so that was one of the reasons, candidly,
why I went on a dating show.

Because all of the conventional ways of dating
had not worked.

I was in my mid-20s
and I was starting to realize—
hey, there’s very few single people in my county.

Literally in the entire county of Daviess County,
anyone between 23 to 28—
and hell, at that point I think I was going
like 23 to 40.

I was like,
you know what,
I’ll take a freshly divorced single mom.

At this point it was starting to be pretty rough.

Single moms are great.

But yeah,
I realized that the odds were against me.
They were stacked against me.

So—
tried a dating show,
and that was eventually how I ended up
in another relationship.

Little story about my experience
trying to date in a small town
in the farming industry.

And I think that there’s so much to this
that a lot of farmers and ranchers—
like you see a bunch,
and it seems like it’s more men than women—
you see a bunch of 30- to 40-year-old single men
that are farmers or ranchers.

Yeah.

What do you think that is?